This case study is about one of the counselling case of a Teenager boy. This boy had not gone to school for the entire year and also managed to look perfect at home. Parents didn’t know that he is not going to school for almost an year. When they came to know about it they were completely shattered.
Before En-Reach Sessions:
Child had low attendance problems for 3 years which made him bunk school almost regularly
Fourteen year old Gaurav hailed from a family of working parents. He was a well behaved, obedient and punctual child, also eager to learn. But it was a classic case of bullying which made his attitude towards school turn bitter. So much so, that he did not attend school for almost a year, without his parents get a hint of it. When the teachers called in the parents for an explanation of Gaurav’s low attendance and downward academic performance, that’s when everything was revealed. Gaurav used to board the school van on time to reach school. But instead of going to the classroom, he used to go to Shaniwar wada to sit, read and pass his time. He used to have his lunch meanwhile, return to the school premises on time and come back home. Hearing this, Gaurav’s parents were stunned. When asked for an explanation, Gaurav pointed fingers towards four of his classmates who bullied him nonstop by teasing, quarrelling and physically fighting with him.
Neither the parents nor teachers were satisfied with Gaurav’s explanation, especially when he mentioned that he had complained to the teachers several times and no action was taken by them. This infuriated the teacher to the point that she slapped Gaurav in front of his parents and still they did not do anything about it.
During En-Reach Sessions:
Both sides were heard and a mutually benefiting solution was put forth
Worried, anxious and angry, Gaurav’s parents came to En-Reach Learning Center with a hope to improve Gaurav’s situation to send him back to school. Gaurav’s parents wanted to know the reason why it was only Gaurav who was bullied from the entire classroom and nobody else. This was never resolved for them during their meetings with the school. If this doubt were to be cleared, the next steps would have been obvious. During a detailed interaction, Gaurav told that the children who bullied him would often tease and fight him. Gaurav oppressed the situation whereas other children would keep mum. Gaurav used to talk and fight back. He is the child with self-respect. He would complain of the bullies to the teacher, who would not take any further action. The reason behind this is that the teacher feared losing her job. It was a known fact that the bullying children’s families had strong political affiliations. The teacher dodged every form of risk and scolded Gaurav as to not behave the way he did, asking him not to fight back. This angered and upset Gaurav. He told the same thing to his parents who were not convinced either, so much so that they did not flinch when the teacher slapped Gaurav in front of them. During the session when the father realized that though he thought he is supporting his child, as it appeared, actually he was not. His entire approach changed, he was very apologetic about the situation.
Both sides- parents’ and Gaurav’s were heard. Empathetic and effective communication from parents was the only way to this problem, was the conclusion.
After En-Reach Sessions:
Gaurav expressed his wish to go back to school, solving everyone’s problem
En-Reach explained to Gaurav’s parents how solitary he had been feeling the entire time, as nobody tried to hear his side of the story. Hence he had to take matters into his own hands, wherein he decided to escape and cause the least amount of chaos.
En-Reach advised the parents to pay heed to Gaurav’s issues and act on them. Let Gaurav feel no pressure whatsoever in terms of going back to school. He was eager to learn, but refusing to go back to the same school. Hence, the parents were advised to start the procedure of changing the school. Once Gaurav saw how seriously he was being heard and cared, he would want to change his actions as well. The counselling session was a huge success as Gaurav felt heard, was paid heed to and felt responsible of his actions. He expressed to go back to school, learn, take exams and pass with flying colours. And that’s what he did too.
It is evident from Gaurav’s and several other cases that the main issue lies with communication, listening to your children. It is at the heart of relationship building, a trait children pick up on very early and regularly. Hence it is important to communicate, hear each other out and support one another’s’ decisions. This 3 year old problem was solved by En-Reach in 3 counselling sessions after which Gaurav never expressed to bunk school again. To fight with the world what all he wanted was his parents support.
child development, parenting